Wandering Into Oblivion (And The Light Switch CURE)

Meet Joe.   

He’s in his late forties, early fifties. Has three children. Drives a not too flashy car. Lives in an okay house. Considered a good guy. Works in a 9 to 5 job, though having very little enthusiasm for it. 

Has made multiple promises to his wife (and to himself) about changing the way things are. But is gripped with self-doubt. Isn’t internally driven or motivated to do anything of significance. Though, wants to.  He sits alone at night. Troubled. Dissatisfied. Frustrated. Trying to figure his life out. Night after night. Most nights, having little to no sleep at all. 

However, for Joe (and men and women just like Joe) things are (and will be) pretty much the same as they were, give or take a little rainbow of success along the way. Endless opportunities for growth, profits and incredible personal development, will have come and gone. A deep commitment to none.  An avalanche of conflicting information scattered far and wide into his brain.  The result? Confusion and misery. No clue how to make sense of it all. 

Sadly for Joe, he’ll be just another hopeful human. Just getting through his life. Until, he realises that he’s into his seventies and eighties. And nothing to show for his time on the planet except a shopping list of missed opportunities, unfinished projects, broken promises and a pile of… ‘what could have beens’.

What one thing could Joe have done that would’ve made a major difference in how his life turns out? GETTING HELP. Joe decided to walk the path to success, alone. He figured that he would have the required desire, know-how and fortitude to work things out for himself.  

DIY success, rarely works for the majority. Only a few are totally independent. Totally self-reliant.  Totally internally dependable on themselves. They will make a dynamic success of things, no matter what. Joe hadn’t sufficiently trained himself to be completely self-reliant. Though, he has trained himself to be locked up in his own cocoon. Happy to not take the advice of successful others. To not get into a community of others who can help. He lives with a fragile ego. Unwilling to deal with another point of view. Unwilling to admit that he doesn’t know much. Unwilling to say that he was wrong. Unwilling to have someone jolt him into activity.      

Joe is steadily wandering into oblivion. Though, he just can’t see it. Because, for Joe, there’s another day just around the corner. And then another. And then another. Somewhere, there’s a part of Joe that believes he’s immortal. That he’ll be on the planet forever. That he’ll have all the time in the world to do what he wants. To get what he wants. To be whom he wants. Though, all the while Joe believes this, he is living a life of quiet desperation. He worries. He frets. He questions his own sanity every single day. Sadly, unable to come up with the right answers.

The Switch

It could be that Joe can find the answer by going to the switch on his wall. Switched to the ON position, light enters. Switched off, darkness. Can the road to success begin with and be as simple as flipping the switch and letting the light in? Why not? Aren’t we all in a state of darkness about something, until we see the light?

And how difficult is it to go from darkness to light? It’s just a flipping of a switch.  

And what’ll happen to people like Joe when he flips the switch and sees the light? Miracles! Happenings that’ll take shape which seemed unfathomable previously. The sparkle of his true personality will surge forth like electricity lighting up a whole city.

The Joes’ of the world can set fire to their lives – but only when they switch their internal switch to the ON position. A switch that’ll move them from oblivion and darkness, to clarity and light.             

Hire People Who Inspire!

Seems crazy... hiring people into postions of high responsibility... who are as bland and as dry as toast, unable to truly motivate, inspire or command respect... especially when their results prove it all.

So who's to blame - the hirer?

Possibly.

But then again, not many are courageous enough to say, "heck, we made a big blunder... we've got the wrong person in the job... it's all our fault!"

If you read the snippet below, you'll see a piece I wrote to Sky Sports. It was in reply to a post on one of their blogs to do with the sacking of the National Team's (Great Britain) tennis coach.

Of course, it didn't get published. Simply a message to say something like it may get published though will have to ne considered by the... blah blah blah.

So why not; why didn't it get published?

Oh, I think it's probably a lot to do with the hirer's not taking responsibility... for putting the wrong person in the job and, for Sky probably supporting the nitwits who run the tennis (non!) show here in GB.

"On John Lloyd's (thank goodness) adios, here's the thing; it doesn't matter WHO the coach is - so long as they have and energy, a spirit and a way about them that signals... INSPIRATION.

When you look at JL, there's no energy or passion about him. There's a flatness, a mediocre neutrality about him. There's no spirit about him that's contagious enough for players to catch. When you hear JL's tv commentary, there's enough evidence there to tell a person that "here's blandness in action!"

In any walk of life, when you get a walking, living, breathing inspirer, people around them, do great things. And something else - it's not the HOW TO that's missing. It's not the technical aspects that need addressing so much then the DESIRE, the INNER DRIVE AND WANT.

One can set up as many grass root programmes as they want - if there's no burning desire coming from a player, it really doesn't matter. CLUE: Hire a spirited inspirer. That'll get the balls really thwacking, trophies lifted and the tennis scene... REALLY humming.

Yes, ONE person really can make ALL the difference in the world". www.RajaHireker.com

The Awesome POWER of... ONE!

If you look all around you in your life, you've no doubt noticed the scatty type thinking adopted by most.

Of course, you'll get into a wrestling match about what's scatty and, what's not from those who'll protest about it all.

However, if you wanted to rid the world around you of the scatty, bird brain thinking most have slithered into, there's a simply beautiful solution.

I'm talking about finding ONE source, ONE person, ONE book, ONE website to help us FIX whatever it is that's giving us our scatty thinking in an area of life we want to improve.

And I know that simply hearing that instruction will have many jumping into a panic about "all the material and information they've already invested in... ", and, that's okay. But you see, the critical question you may need to fire at yourself is...

"What have I gained from it and how has it really helped me?"

You see, it's this Olympic style skating from one book, resource, website, guru, etc, to another, THAT is what STOPS most from getting really skilled and knowledgeable in a particular area.

We're simply not stopping at things long enough to give it a fair trial! To perfectly and beautifully, master the information.

In fact, I've been madly guilty of all this jumping around from pillar to post that at times, it makes me quite sick just writing about it. The amount of wasted energy, money, time, commitment in practicing this kind of ill-disciplined habit would stagger anyone if they audited it all and put everything to numbers.

So, when someone asks me about how to become a good writer to promote their products or services, I tell them to... WRITE. And, I say to them to get a hold of one book on a list of 5* or so advertising books, and to PICK ONE and go through it like there was nothing else on the planet that was written on the subject matter. For, when they're grounded in the basics, the FUNdamentals, they can then move on to other works to add to the rock solid foundation.

When someone asks me about motivation, self help, personal development, I tell them point blank to invest in the material put out by Steve Chandler (http://www.stevechandler.com/) I tell them to immerse themselves in his material and then, if they're not happy, to then trot along to all those hyped up evangelists who have nothing more to offer than their personal style and a total eagerness to promote themselves. You know; all wind and borrowed substance or in fact, NO substance.

The POWER OF 1 is not talked about much as most people have wired their insides to willingly, deliberately, on purpose... to skip the necessary concentration and attentiveness that's needed for experiencing the true POWER of 1.

So, if you peep into your own life, to an area where you're feeling sloppy or sluggish about something, then take a closer look for when you do you'll see that you've most likely got a half baked, incomplete, or conflicting story that's confusing the heck out of you.

So, what you probably do next is to cover it all away from the glare of the spotlight and let it hide away in some dark corner somewhere. And I can speak so freely and flowingly about it all because that's what I used to do! And yes, it felt so so good in NOT dealing with it because... I DIDN'T HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT!

And of course, in the NOT dealing of it, it became a BIGGER PROBLEM than if it was tended to in the first place.

See how the Power of One can work miracles in YOUR life, also. Put it to the test and let the results be your guiding light.

And, when you eventually reach that point, you'll realise that all you'll ever need is the power of YOU. You'll be your own teacher. You'll be the ONE you'll bet on, time and time again. You won't need anyONE else to give you what you seek.


Raja C. Hireker
http://rajahireker.com/

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Delirious Motivated Idiots!

You ever seen the mad excited rush from those people coming out of a motivational seminar, darting around the place like headless chickens, looking for a place, a person, an idea, SOMETHING(!)... to attach their newfound motivation to?

I have.

Heck, I've BEEN that person! And yes, it's horrible.


Why?

Because I'd wait and wait and wait for the MOTIVATION to DO something to me. To MOVE me. To CREATE for me. To SURGE through me... anything!


But, just like a dream of the big lottery ticket, it all vanishes into the darkest of nights.


And the horrible thing is I still see people I know, honest, good, loving people... I still see them looking for the WONDER DUST that'll trigger their life into some form of creative momentum.


Of course, that's not going to happen. I know that. YOU know that. But, you know, these people - and we all know them and we all have them somewhere lodged in the corner of our lives somewhere - these people will still be on the HUNT. The hunt for the elusive MOTIVATIONAL MAGIC POWDER they believe, and they truly do believe this, honest they do, they believe that it exists OUT THERE...


... OUTSIDE OF THEMSELVES!


Yes I know. Pathetic. But look, we all lived that way, once. You know, that bouncing along with life with the feeling that all's well and life is hunky doodle dandy... but... there's NOTHING HAPPENING to make life a happy, joyous, excited place to be in.


It's what I call the DELIRIOUS MOTIVATED IDIOT syndrome.


I don't mean that 'happy for no reason' type look. Not that. (Because see, there's power in that, REALLY!)


No. What I mean is the ALL PUMPED UP, NOSTRILS FLARING, HAPPY TENSE SMILING, TEETH GRINDING, KNUCKLES CLENCHED, HEAVY BREATHING... type of person. And... there's still NOTHING GOING ON IN THIS PERSON'S LIFE!


I'm struggling to come up with a better description but I think if you feel what I'm saying at a gut level, you'll instantly pick up what I'm talking about.


So, the next time you feel all juiced and pumped after reading something inspirational, motivational - something that stirs your heart and gets you really ramped up, find a project or goal to take all that energy you've got, and go put it to powerful and practical use.


As I say, let's run from the DELIRIOUS MOTIVATED IDIOT crowd, and instead, become part of the crowd that gets the WORK done behind all the motivation and enthusiasm.




Raja C. Hireker
http://marketingandlifechangecoaching.com/