Anything We've Ever Really Wanted... We've Got!!

There was a time I used to crib about wanting a better physique, a better paying job, being a better tennis player, become fearless and goal oriented... be funnier... and everything else I said I wanted.

And, when I didn't get what I thought I wanted, I simply put it down to nothing much in particular. What I mean by that is I didn't really take a deep look into the dynamics of what was going on.

The fact of the matter is, there isn't much analysing to do.

Because, whatever I really want, I've got.

And let me broaden this out...

Whatever any of us has wanted, we've got.

And that's a key word, want, because, we either do something to get what we say we want, or... we don't do nothing much in particular.

Now if it's the latter, then what that means is that we never really truly deeply wanted it in the first place!

And that's good to know because why unnecessarily beat ourselves up over something we think we want, but do nothing to get it.

So if I really really wanted a better physique, I'd be creating a plan, a system, a programme of work in order to reach my desired physique. I'd be doing daily things like sit ups, squats, pull ups... I'd be totally aware of how I move through the day. (And, in fact, that's exactly what I've been doing for the last couple of months now and I'm experiencing a wonderful difference in my strength, stamina, 'look', mental clarity, ability to concentrate and get more done)

On the other hand, if all I did was wish a better physique into existence and simply hoped my health would improve with a little half-hearted dabbling here and there, then it's not something I really really want to have happen in my life.

And we can apply that mindshift thinking and processing to ANYTHING we say we want in our lives.

What about those in business?

Can we really want to have our business explode and be the best version of it that it can possibly be?

Sure... if we truly WANT that.

So, if I really wanted that to be the case, to make my business the best possible version that it can be, then I'd have to be working, acting in accordance to a plan of prosperity.

I'd have to be totally consumed with serving my customers and clients with products and services that can benefit their lives.

I'd plan to keep in regular contact and communication with my customers... I'd be listening to what my customers have to tell me... I'd be creating new, joyful experiences for customers, employees and, myself.

I'd commit to doing one task at a time. I'd commit to outsource the things I can't or don't want to do.

Can you see there's a powerful, practical, purposeful difference at play here than merely winging it or hoping that the business will take care of it self, which in turn, will magically, give me what I want?

It's Disneyland thinking. Pixie dust sprinkling.

And the truth of the matter is... (and whether we like hearing it or not, isn't going to make a difference to this truth), all of us have got what we want in our life currently, because... that's what we want!

It's not much more complicated than that.

There's really no need to reach for the long, drawn out services of a psychologist or psychiatrist - this is plain simple stuff -- we either want things, or, we don't. We either do things, or we don't.

The man says to me that his relationship is on a roller coaster of being either one of deep creeping silence and separateness, and then, it changes to one of banging voices, screaming madness and horrible blame.

And when I suggested that that... "that's what you want your relationship to be like or you wouldn't be doing your part", it stopped him, cold.

So, what is it you REALLY WANT? (without having to wait for Santa to shower you with his own idea of what you want!)

Name it, then... go claim it!

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It's About Love, Not Time...

There's a HUGE myth running in and out of our brains and it goes something like this...

"I'd love to do that but I just don't have the time."

Now not only is this a common line for most... it's a BIG FAT LIE.

And the reason that it's a big whopper is because if we really loved something, really loved something... we'd MAKE the time to DO IT... wouldn't we?

I mean, it just makes plain simple sense.

And that's where most of us go wrong - thinking that simple, isn't something valuable enough so we go look for the complex and it's no wonder because check out the huge chaos in our brains!

So, say I want to play the piano and I want to be good at it but oh look, there's no time in the day for it so looks like I'll have to put that on the shelf of my life and carry on with the normal and the mundane and the boring stuff of my everyday life and... oh my gosh, let me check the calendar... GASP.... I've only a few more years left before checkout time!!

Can you see the diabolical chaos going on in our heads because we believe the pathetic lie that there's not enough time so I'm going to scrap something that I say is really important to me in my life... can you see the chaos going on here?

And so when we get to the bottom of it all, the thing all along was that... I really DIDN'T WANT to play the piano because if I did, if I really loved and wanted to play it and it was something that I thought about and I listened to the music I wanted to play and I could imagine myself playing the piano and I go and find out about piano classes and I look to see about purchasing maybe a used piano...

Well, then there's evidence that I'm really into this and I'm really loving this and this is what I want to get really good at and whatever time I've got in the day or the week, then I'll go at it with all I've got because I really want this. And if I REALLY want it more than I believe, I'll be up early and I'll be DOING IT.

So you see, it's NEVER a matter of not having enough time. It's always a matter of Do I Love it Enough TO MAKE THE TIME and get really good at what I want to do.

And that's pretty much it.

Of course, there's all the inner flapping of the head and mind we get into when there's a reason to defend and justify things and all that but none of that matters because all the conversation stops when we're DOING what we say we want.

And the conversational flapping stops because we're really doing it because we love it.

I'd love to make this more difficult and more complex and more deeper but you know, life's not meant to be wasted.

Raja Hireker
www.CoachingByWriting.com

Things Happen... If You WANT Them To...

The world of HOW TO information, is running rampant

And, with the Internet, there's the enormous possibility to flood your life with a library load of info... EVERY SINGLE DAY!

But see, it's NEVER only the HOW TO info that'll help you get what you want in life.

Take any area you're trying to improve:

Health... Wealth... Relationships... Business or career success... Communication... Or... whatever it is for you that you want to improve.

Let's take health.

And, let's take LOSING WEIGHT as an example.

When you search the Internet, you'll see a plethora of DIETS that happily tell you that they'll help you shed the excess, that they'll melt the pounds.

There's the Cabbage Diet... The Green Tea Diet... The Atkins Diet... The South Beach Diet... The Hips, Bums and Thighs Diet... The Hoolah Boolah Diet... There's a thousand and one diets out there.

But if a person has said they wanted to lose weight, but they're still at squareone - even after 'trying' all the diets in the world, then what's wrong here?

What's not quite right?

I mean, there's all the HOW TO info there to help send the pounds packing... So, what's up?

Well, losing the weight is NEVER based on the HOW TO diet. For if it was, all those who say they want to lose weight and, have got on one of those programmes, they would have reached their ideal weight by now.

The plain and simple fact is these people DON'T WANT TO lose weight.

That's right.

They simply don't want to lose the weight.

"But, but, but... "

There's no 'buts' about it. If you wanted to lose weight, I mean REALLY WANTED to lose weight, then it doesn't matter what HOW TO information you choose in order to lose the weight... YOU'LL LOSE ALL THE WEIGHT YOU WANT!

And, you could shuffle all those diets, exercise programmes, nutrition info, etc and throw them into a large box and, if you really wanted to lose the weight, you could be blindfolded and pick ANY of the 'HOW TO's' and... Any of the 'HOW TO' info will work for you!

Are you getting the distinction here?

If you do, the implications are HUGE.

Because, this is not only true for health and losing weight, it's true for ANY area in your life you're looking to get better in.

Let's take creating a business.

And note the word CREATING.

There's a vitality and energy in that.

As opposed to - let's start a business.

Okay, here's what I hear when I consult with people about their business.

"I can't seem to get this business going, I don't know how to... " "There's too much going on that I don't know what to concentrate on first or howto do it... " "I'm a bit nervous about charging the fees for what I do... "

Well, again, it's not that people don't know HOW TO do any of the above. As I say, get on the Internet and you'll find all the HOW TO information you need.

No. The HOW TO information is not the real thing here.

The key here is the WANT TO and the commitment to the reasons behind wanting to make things happen. I've found most have no clear cut reasons for wanting what it is they say they want. And, because they skip this part, there's an automatic rush to the HOW TO information to help them succeed.

As you've seen, it's pure folly. Nothing great will ever happen if there aren't specific, beneficial reasons for wanting things to happen. For, when you have the WANT TO in place,you become a predator, you develop a voracious appetite to want to KNOW whatyou need to do to make things happen... To help you get what you want.

And, you'll GET IT.

No question about it.

There's just no two ways about it.

Once you shift from simple 'trying and being interested' in things, to then being committed and really wanting to make things happen... LIFE EXPLODES into newness.

However... If you're feeling frustrated and somewhat at a loss because you're not getting what want, check your internal desire, check your deep deep WANT TO, check the real benefits you'll get forreaching what it is you say you want.

If when you do the above, you then find that you're not really committed to getting what you want, simply admit that. Admit that you're not ready... for losing weight... for creating a profitable business... for having great relationships... for improved communications... for greater wealth... See, there's great power in acknowledging that you're not ready for it. It frees you up from beating yourself up.

However, when you are ready, when youreally WANT THINGS TO HAPPEN, and you have STRONG BENEFICIAL REASONS that will happen because of reaching what you want, then you OWN YOUR LIFE AND YOU CAN COMMIT TO ANYTHING... AND... ... YOU'LL REACH IT!

Have a powerful week.

Raja C. Hireker
Refusing to buy into people's limitingbeliefs about themselves.

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