How 12 Angry Men Can, Astonishingly, Turn Your Life Around

If there's one thing you can do for someone you love, someone you know who's troubled or someone you know who needs desperate help and nothing has really worked for them, then get them a copy of the astonishing movie - 12 Angry Men

And, if it's you who is in a dilemma about where your life is going or what you really want or where your best work is, then get this movie for yourself and watch it again and again and again.

So what's so astonishing about this movie that gets me writing about it and has me telling you to invest part of your life in it... what's so astonishing about it?

To start with, you'll find secret lessons slip into your mind... the kind of lessons you'll not learn in any book or formal course of teaching.

And I'm not going to spoil things by telling you exactly what happens in this movie but what I will say that the movie contains one of the most destructive and the most creative aspects in how each one of us lives our lives -- our minds.

And sure, you may have heard that all before and you may have read a thousand and one books on the subject and it's probable that it's all rushed passed you and if you've heard it one time then you've heard it a thousand times before and I understand that...

But let me suggest something to you that when you hear or see the same subject matter and you view it in an entirely NEW way and you take it in in a completely new way then it'll hit you like a thousand volts of electricity. It'll be like a whooshing energy picking you up and somehow gently forcing you to see things differently because that's where ALL the problems and answers happen in life -- in HOW WE SEE THINGS!

So, with these 12, adult, grown up men, we get to see how they've been conditioned to their personal thinking and their assumptions and their prejudices and their ideals and their viewpoints and their rationale and their beliefs that are all soaked up in their own personal drama and tragedy.

And then, piece by piece, evidence after evidence, thought after thought, conversation after conversation, anger after anger, the mind... shifts.

Theirs... as well as ours!

Imagine, the point of view we hold so firmly and so closely and so desperately cling to, simply vanishes into thin air!

And it's so beautiful to see and it's so magnificent to witness and it all takes your breath away because right there, right on that very screeen, we're seeing our own hardened arteries and our own drama of life and our own stubborn ideas and fears... melt and wither and deflate and it's just tearful when it happens... I mean, really, it's just tearful and heart wrenching because, possibly, for the very first time, we can see how we're living a hardened assumptive lie and we've wasted an enormous amount of time immersed in that lie... and now, without even realising it, there's an opening, a way out of this mind game, a clear path to walk on... and each one of us can experience it.

So now if you're simply looking for a dramtic movie to keep you entertained over the coming weeks, then 12 Angry Men, fits, perfectly.

However, if you're looking to also have your life be forever changed and if you're open to that astonishing possibility, then I invite you to witness a miracle in motion by seeing... 12 Angry Men because it's just too good a life changing lesson to pass by.

Raja Hireker

(And if you do buy it and you do see it and it doesn't create a stir within you in a dramatic way then just send the movie to me - email me for address - and I'll pay you whatever you spent to get it... plus 50% extra on top of that)

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The Powerful Stupidity of Non Judgement

Have you ever read or heard the 'wise ones' when they say, "oh, the key to extraordinary living happens when we're non judgemental."

I used to believe that. I used to think that I'd reach some sort of exalted celestial status when I incorporate non judgment into my everyday existence. To my every moment.

I bought into all that. And what a futile and hopeless instruction that was.

That's because the job of the mind, is to judge. That's its JOB!

Now, I fully understand and practice being non jugdemental when the need arises. And what I mean by non-judgemental is observing but without giving comment. Without letting the full force of my mind let loose on the issue at hand.

So, I can see the news of global financial chaos. I can hear all about the incompetence of people in high places. I can give no thought to the football team playing such a lousy game.

I can practice non judgement.

However, when you ask someone who is TOTALLY into all this 'non judgement movement' and you ask them, "what exactly do you mean by non judgement and when do you DO this non judgemental stuff... how does that all work?"

Naturally I get the long long silence and the wide eyed stare that tells me I'm either the president of the loony society or that I'm some sort of mad hatter prankster playing one heavy joke on them.

The fact of the matter is we're ALL practicing the practice of... being judgemental.

A person first has to judge that they're going to practice being non judgemental. That kind of puts a hole in the entire thinking, doesn't it?

Once again, the job of the mind, is to judge. And it's doing it EVERY MOMENT.

Is it rainy or sunny... am I tired or not... am I hungry or not... will I exercise or not... will I write or not... will I wear black or blue... will I have coffee or tea... will I watch this channel or this...

There's no mystery. There's no science. There's no deeper hidden meaning to the idea of being judgemental. There's no one coming down to give you a whack across the knuckles because you've been a bad bad judgemental person.

If you really want to use the power of being non judgmental, do it when trauma, sorrow, negativity strikes you. Attach NO story or judgment to it all.

If a long term client says they do not want to conduct business with you ever again, attach no story to that. But instead, get busy at creating better quality relationships with others.

If family members decide to 'let you have it', you can practice saying nothing. Doing nothing. Being, nothing. That is, if you're looking for peace harmony and happiness... for yourself.

And of course, there will be times when you will want to put your best case forward. And that's nothing more than the sheer beauty of... being judgemental... in a relaxed and loving way!

If you're not aware of what you're mentally letting into your brain, you'll have your senses scrubbed clean of all its goodness and quality, and instead, without you ever realising, it'll be replaced with the confusion and drama from those who really have no idea what the hell they are talking about.

And if you let it go on long enough, you'll find that your life will simply drift, drfit drift on the waves of assumption and conjecture.

Let's... CREATE!!

Have you ever noticed yourself getting 'stuck' in something or other?

Whether it's money, marketing, health, dealing with other people - whatever it is, you're - no question about it - STUCK.

Of course, if you have a 'positive' frame of mind, simply saying "I'm stuck and I'm positive about it", won't slide and glide you out of the problem, will it?

"I've a bunch of debt and I'm sick of it." Well, that's an honest appraisal of things. Though, it doesn't help FIX the problem.

"I'm not getting any new customers, profits are down, business stinks. I need to make things better and I don't know how!" That's taking things another step further along the ladder of solution.

The truth of it is that with ANY PROBLEM you may face, there's the opening for a person to CREATE a solution. Many solutions.

What does that mean?

Precisely THIS.

With any problem you're faced with, understand that the solution to it will come from applying some NEW thinking. From CREATING a solution.

How do we CREATE solutions then?

By simply asking questions - the RIGHT questions.

And... what ARE the right questions?

Let's look at an example:

So, you're a Business Consultant and you've no clients you can speak of. You've one pro-bono client and you'd like to fill your practice in 30 days. And being full for you means 10 clients.

Okay, it's probably true to say that right now, you're kind of stuck. There's fear of some sort running through your mind, heart and voice. There's probably worry, anger, frustration and dry mouth anguish. Life maybe one big REACTION for you.

NOT a good platform for finding solutions. For being CREATIVE. For NEW life.

So, what would happen if we got a simple piece of paper out and wrote...

"What Value Can I Create For The Existing People on My Contact/Database List?"
"How Can I Serve These People in Ways That Will Blow Them Away?"
"Who Has Come into My Inbox Where by I Can Create a Business Conversation With Them And Be Totally Present and Focus Totally on Listening to Them and What They Are Up To?"

Creation Comes From ASKING Questions and then following and ACTING on what flows.

If our Business Consultant creates the behaviour and the active discipline to make the above happen, he oe she will never want for business again.

And, prosperity happens when CREATING ANEW happens and when the mind, SHIFTS.

Just do something like the above the next time you feel yourself stuck and frozen and you'll be amazed at what happens.

For, it's in your CREATIVITY, your ability to create that'll get you all that you want in this life of yours.

That's YOUR enlightenment. That's YOUR awakening.



Raja C. Hireker
http://marketingandlifechangecoaching.com/