It's About Love, Not Time...

There's a HUGE myth running in and out of our brains and it goes something like this...

"I'd love to do that but I just don't have the time."

Now not only is this a common line for most... it's a BIG FAT LIE.

And the reason that it's a big whopper is because if we really loved something, really loved something... we'd MAKE the time to DO IT... wouldn't we?

I mean, it just makes plain simple sense.

And that's where most of us go wrong - thinking that simple, isn't something valuable enough so we go look for the complex and it's no wonder because check out the huge chaos in our brains!

So, say I want to play the piano and I want to be good at it but oh look, there's no time in the day for it so looks like I'll have to put that on the shelf of my life and carry on with the normal and the mundane and the boring stuff of my everyday life and... oh my gosh, let me check the calendar... GASP.... I've only a few more years left before checkout time!!

Can you see the diabolical chaos going on in our heads because we believe the pathetic lie that there's not enough time so I'm going to scrap something that I say is really important to me in my life... can you see the chaos going on here?

And so when we get to the bottom of it all, the thing all along was that... I really DIDN'T WANT to play the piano because if I did, if I really loved and wanted to play it and it was something that I thought about and I listened to the music I wanted to play and I could imagine myself playing the piano and I go and find out about piano classes and I look to see about purchasing maybe a used piano...

Well, then there's evidence that I'm really into this and I'm really loving this and this is what I want to get really good at and whatever time I've got in the day or the week, then I'll go at it with all I've got because I really want this. And if I REALLY want it more than I believe, I'll be up early and I'll be DOING IT.

So you see, it's NEVER a matter of not having enough time. It's always a matter of Do I Love it Enough TO MAKE THE TIME and get really good at what I want to do.

And that's pretty much it.

Of course, there's all the inner flapping of the head and mind we get into when there's a reason to defend and justify things and all that but none of that matters because all the conversation stops when we're DOING what we say we want.

And the conversational flapping stops because we're really doing it because we love it.

I'd love to make this more difficult and more complex and more deeper but you know, life's not meant to be wasted.

Raja Hireker
www.CoachingByWriting.com

New Years Celebrations... ALL YEAR ROUND!

So it's now 2009 and what's really happened here to the mind of the global nation? I mean, it's just a crazy wild scene - New Years Day. Celebration, fireworks, hugging, smiles... I mean, it's just a wild and crazy scene. And it's just beautiful, isn't it?

Think about it for a moment -- in the twinkling of an eye, with a click of the fingers, the whole thought of the so called world financial catastrophe of 2008, is forgotten, wiped out, put behind us... just like that.

Amazing!

So then, do we need wait for a New Years Day type celebration to fix our concerns and problems and frustrations and dilemmas because it's guaranteed that something will come up for us during the year, I mean, it has to, just look at the odds of it not happening!

So what happens now, now that this big ugly problem has reared its nasty head; where's the NEW YEARS celebration when we need it? Oh can't we just pour out the solution from a bottle kept in the fridge and have it be done with... can't it just be washed away and sent straight into the depths of the ocean... can't it be as simple and as quick as that?

Most believe knock backs or setbacks are supposed to last a long long time and so we mentally prepare ourselves for the stories of woe and of trouble and of hurt and of blame and of victimisation... and we get comfortable telling these stories to ourself and to anyone else who will listen.

But see, we can totally end that game if we want to and we can celebrate the end of that game and we can congratulate ourselves for not playing that game... anymore...

And now instead, we've chosen a new game and the beautiful thing about this new game is that it doesn't include any of the old rules we used to follow and practice and become oh so professional at... there's none of that in this game because this game is about choosing what we want to have happen in this new 2009 and we're going to create a magnificent plan to make things happen.

And do you know what's really really important about this? Well, what's so important about this is the fact that we're creating and playing by our own rules and that's magical because it could have been that we got stuck on some OLD rule in 2008 and so now, we're not into those old rules because none of that served us well so that's why... we're going to drop all that.

Please tell me you can feel the power rising up in you when you hear that you can create whatever you want in 2009 because you're now setting the rules and you're calling the shots and you're in total command... please tell me that you can feel all that because if and when you can, you'll see that there's the PERMISSION SHIFT you've been hiding out from.

So this new game... this new game is only about you and what you want. Does that sound selfish and too greedy and so uncaring about what others want and their needs and all that... does it seem you don't care?

Well, I think not because what you want will no doubt include your family somewhere along the line. And that's the way it should be because if you were chasing whatever success means to you, and you left out family and relationships and love and caring, then it's all a great waste of time and money and energy and... life. It's all a great waste.

Create what you want to have happen in 2009... because it's the best answer to a life in the doldrums and a life of blame and a life of nothing much happening at all.

Have a year long celebration of success!

Raja Hireker

Creating Personal & Lifechange Transformation
Through Writing http://CoachingByWriting.com